Eureka Gremlins!

What is it about the bathroom (and shower in particular) that encourages deep philosophical thoughts?? Do the thoughts lurk there, waiting to catch us unawares and then strike like a lightning bolt to the head? During the frustration that was my University degree this would constantly happen to me. I liked to mull things over and let my ideas marinate so I’d leave my essay while I took some time out for a shower… One minute I’d be happily relaxing in the hot water then ZING – the perfect sentence would shoot through my mind! The perfect order of words that I knew would tie all my arguments together; the perfect sentence that was so profound, so deep and meaningful; it seemed destined to ensure me an A grade AND explain half the problems in today’s society. And I would TEAR out of that bathroom like a cat on crack, running to my computer so that I could, still dripping with water, attempt to capture that golden light of a sentence.

I love the way Elizabeth Gilbert (author of “Eat, Pray, Love”), describes the idea of ‘the genius’ in this clip.
She perceives works of art (music, literature, art, dance etc.) to be created through a collaboration with a person AND some external power, outside of us. This takes the pressure off of the artist “to BE” a genius, and instead shares equally the glory and downfalls of all works created between the person and this outside entity.

She brilliantly describes this external force, this genius, as something akin to “Dobby the house elf” and I can totally visualise the little genius gremlin specially assigned to my case. Sometimes the poor little critter must just be banging his head against the bathroom wall as it watches me stumble through life. But I do wonder, why does it so often visit me in the bathroom? And I KNOW I am not the only one this happens to, because I’ve seen a Facebook group called “coming up with great ideas in the shower,” and yes, I did join it.  I also found this little gem on Facebook:

So my theory on why our genius gremlins hide in the bathroom is this: it’s one of the only spaces where they can actually be heard. In our busy lives, the time we give ourselves to have a shower can be the only private and silent time we afford ourselves. Whether you believe that the fantastic brain storming you are capable of achieving in the shower is due to a connection with a genius gremlin, God, your inner wisdom or some mixture of the three, one thing is certain: We REALLY ought to make time to meditate and journal!! I, for one, think these voices deserve a more attentive ear than we currently bestow them during our shower time. And so it’s rather fitting that I finish this post while sitting in my bathroom (this actually happens to be the only place in the apartment that I get internet). I open my mind, open my life, to my little genius gremlin. Whenever you want buddy, hit me with it!!

Where the magic happens... I hope.

My Relationship With Italy

Seeing as it is coming up to our nine month anniversary and it remains one of, if not THE most fulfilling relationship I’ve ever experienced (sorry to any of my exes who read this), I thought I better dedicate my first ever post to my lover: Italia. Like any serious relationship, our history together can be retraced through Facebook posts:

29th October 2011
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY ITALIA!!!!!! 6 months ago today we began a wonderful adventure together and although we’ve had our ups and downs, I can’t express how much this time together has meant to me and how much I love you baby!! There’s been some tears, some fears and some broken hearts but we’ve battled through and I have found so much love here with you!!!!! Can’t wait to see what our future together will bring!! ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

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29th November 2011
I’M ENGAGED!!! Yep, me and my lover Italia are making things official!!! Paperwork is submitted for me to become an Italian citizen!!!! The wedding will be the day I receive my Italian passport!!! ♥ ♥ ♥

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(DEFINITELY my post popular Facebook post to date)

I had so many private inbox emails congratulating me on my engagement; it got to the point where I had to print a retraction:

28th December 2011
Cheers for all the congratulations messages I’ve been receiving about my engagement but just to set the record straight I’M NOT GETTING MARRIED I’m just becoming an Italian citizen. But feel free to still send me wedding presents when I get my passport: money is good!!!!

Some people still think I’m engaged. My mum last week had to break the news to some family friends that I’d only applied for an Italian passport (My grandfather is Italian and I can claim citizenship through him), not shacked up with an Italian Stallion.

But things haven’t always been so hunky-dory with Italia. About a month ago I was in a big black hole of EPIC HOMESICKNESS-NESS and was seriously considering leaving my lover and jumping on a plane back to Australia. Then I wrote a list because that is just what I do.

WHY I AM SO HOMESICK (not in order of relevance)

1) The time – it is normal to miss home, family and friends after 8 months away.

2) First Christmas and New Years’ Eve spent away from family and friends.

3) I didn’t get to celebrate Christmas nor New Year’s Eve.

4) Until now I have been SO BUSY (meeting new people, going new places, working, learning a new language etc) that I haven’t had time to THINK about Australia and everything and everyone I was missing.

5) My mum came to visit, gave me a taste of what I was missing and then pissed off again.

6) I ACTUALLY AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ITALY!!! OR AT LEAST MY BRAIN THINKS I AM!
As the sixth point dawned on me, suddenly all the pieces of the puzzle fit together and I had a STARTLING REALISATION.

When was it, I thought, that I began seriously missing certain foods???? Having insane cravings for porridge? Missing people so badly it felt like it physically hurt? Daydreaming of Australian summers at the beach, of barbeques and beer at my favourite pub? Crying hysterically on Skype when I saw my friend’s face or my cat? Freaking out about my two best friends being engaged; comparing my life to theirs; and wondering… WHERE IS THIS GOING WITH ITALIA!?? Is this what I really want? Is Italia really suitable for me with it’s political, social and economic problems? Do we really have a future together?

The answer: all the problems, the doubts, everything began shortly after our 6 month anniversary. Me and Italia had indeed reached THE DREADED 6 MONTH CURSE and now that we were at 8 months we were truly reaching crisis point. The honeymoon period was OVER. The loved up chemicals that originally made my new lover seem perfect in every instance were now waning. The rose-coloured love goggles (cross between rose-coloured glasses and beer goggles = same effect) had been removed.

But this realisation was what saved our relationship. Now that I understood why I was feeling so homesick; why I constantly needed to REMIND myself NOT to take Italia for granted and instead remember why I loved him; everything was easier.

ITALIA : I no longer need to remind myself of how I first fell in love with you nor why I am still here. I know that whatever THIS is, it is worth fighting for and wherever it is going, IT ISN’T OVER YET!!!!
(Goodness, I am such a romantic, but isn’t that a freaking GREAT line? I should be writing for Days of Our Lives!!)